Hypothetical situation

janiedriver

janiedriver

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What would you do if you were the girl?
What would you do if you were the guy?

Bonnie and Clyde been in a commited relationship for awhile. Bonnie finds out Clyde has been e-mailing an old high school friend, Debbie. Clyde never mentioned to Debbie that he was in a relationship with Bonnie. Debbie is available, i.e. not in a relationship, and Clyde tells her that when he is in her town next time he will take her out to dinner. Debbie gives Clyde her phone number.

Bonnie finds out, she talks to Clyde about it and he says it is just about the class reunion. Bonnie asks Clyde why he never mentioned his relationship with her to Debbie, and he said it never came up.

Input anybody? :confused:
 
banzibaby

banzibaby

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I think it a question of trust :)

Whether the woman trusts the man enough, but the man should have been honest with both women, after all if U hide something, dont be suprised when others get upset when they find out :)

If i was the guy i would have told Bonnie about it & also asked her along, if i was the woman i would be distrustfull of the guy for not mentioning it :)

BaNzI :D
 
janiedriver

janiedriver

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Well, Banzi, how does it feel to be the only man on here who can think?? I think you made some good points and assessed the situation well. You'd probably be good in a situation like that. :D ;) :D
 
Seb

Seb

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Well, Clyde should have been honest with both women if he aint nuthing to hide...As banzi said, it's a matter of trust. But i also fink that Bonnie's feelings are genuine and Clyde is only messin around with her. Y does he need a date while he already got 1? He wants to hav them both :rolleyes:
Typical Don Juan...
 
roadworker

roadworker

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Shoot Clyde!
If he has nothing to hide,he should've told Bonnie about the email,and he should've told Debbie that he had a commitment with Bonnie.


His intentions are clear.... :eek:
 
L

LTR12101B

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Are we seeing a parallel of David and Victoria here?

Perhaps Clyde should buy Bonnie a very expensive "guilt present" - mind you, if the size of present is proprional to what needs to be forgiven, a £1million diamond is pretty serious!

Is there a scale to these things?
Flowers + Chocolates for a forgotten anniversary, up to a £1million diamond for having an affair with the PA?
 
janiedriver

janiedriver

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Good answer, and I know I would certainly accept the diamond, but without any real trust that it wouldn't happen again. But from this girl's point of view, I would accept without sceptacism if he worked on whatever the problem was that was causing him to cultivate more territory.
 
The-poacher

The-poacher

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Clyde likes to play the field <> so who cares cos after bonnie & debbie there's sue/lyn/betty/gloria to name but a few <> whayever U may think men (& women for that matter) are not monogamous <> thats a religous/moral view NOT a biological one.**** Sapiens is one of the species that mates with whoever it can & long may it be so.
An old cynic like me defines Love as : Extreme Lust!!
 
janiedriver

janiedriver

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Then you think the situation would probably be the same for almost every couple, and Bonnie should just weigh how much she can get from Clyde to see if it's beneficial for her to stay?
 
The-poacher

The-poacher

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Im looking at Clydes perspective theres no way I can work out what a lady is thinking
remember Janie "Women like the simple things in life & that includes men"
 
janiedriver

janiedriver

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Hypothetical Situation #2

Adam and Eve have been dating for about 9 months. This is Eve's first long time boyfriend. Adam has had several long time girlfriends, all of whom cheated on him.
Eve goes to a party with friends. She gets drunk and goes back to the apartment of one of the guys at the party. They do some kissing and touching, clothes on, and then she goes to sleep. She wakes up in the morning guilt ridden, and goes home.
She tells Adam what happens, he gets very angry, but tells her he doesn't know what he's going to do. Weeks go by, they talk often but don't see each other. Adam still tells Eve he doesn't know what he's going to do.
Eve spends considerable time working on the reason she did this so that it won't happen again.

If you were Eve, how long would you wait for Adam's answer?
If you were Adam, what would your reason be for not giving one?
 
Seb

Seb

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This is a tough 1 Janie...

Adam is hurt, once again. He doesnt understand why this keeps happening to him. He asks himself lot of questions, none of which he has answers. He feels used and abused. He has lost trust in girls. He finks Eve is a bitch, just like the others before her. He has doubts about his sexuality. He is disoriented. He starts drinking a lot, to help him forget. He hangs around with his best m8s, tell 'em his woes. The guys tell him to forget her, that she's a whore. But deep inside Adam is confused. Is Eve telling the truth? Did something else happen? Did Eve sleep with the guy and hide it from him? He doesnt know whether to forgive Eve or not. He asks himself what will happen when Eve gets drunk again...He wants to stop feeling cheated. But he still loves Eve. He doesnt want to end his relationship like that...He wants to believe in Eve, but his past experiences keep haunting him. Adam needs time, lotta time, to heal himself. To start anew, with Eve or not...only time will tell...

Eve is miserable. She realises what a gaffe she's made. She wants forgiveness. She tells Adam what has happened, hoping he will understand. Eve thinks that Adam needs some time to think it all. But she does not know how much time she can give Adam.

I fink that both of them should have a talk. Try to sort it out...
 
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